The Ring Don't Mean a Thing

Ryan was telling me this story the other day about a young woman at one of his stops. She was telling him how much she loved being married and how awesome it was and all the stuff people who have been married for a month and a half will tell you. When he said something to her about it only being a month and a half she said "what do you know? you're not married". Of course he told her that he was indeed married, 13 years in fact, and her next response was amazement that he doesn't wear a wedding ring. The next big shocker was when he told her that I don't wear one either.

She was floored. Apparently in her mind, if one doesn't wear a wedding ring that automatically means they're going to cheat. I've got news for you honey, it's not the ring that prevents people from cheating. There are plenty of people out there who couldn't care less if there's a ring on their finger or not. Lots of things make a marriage and a ring isn't one of them. 

It blew her simple little mind that not only had the thought of cheating never occurred to either of us, but we're actually really damn happy with each other. Ryan told her that he has never looked at another woman and thought about hooking up with her and she couldn't believe that either. Why is that so hard to believe?? I'm sure he has noticed when an attractive woman walks by, but that doesn't mean he wants to sleep with her. I feel bad for the girl if she is constantly worrying that her husband is going to cheat on her. She's going to drive herself(and him) insane if that's how she is. A marriage will only last if both people have love, respect and trust for one another. 

And that's not something you get from a ring.